Strong-willed children can be a challenge in the classroom. Below are several tips to help teach students with challenging behavior. You can explore these tips for supporting strong-willed children in this post on my blog.
- Provide thorough explanations for rules or expectations. Knowing what to expect is critical for help strong-willed kids feel secure.
- Establish a contract for behavior and agree upon the rules and consequences. Outlining each party’s “role” can help students feel like their opinion matters and that they have some control over the classroom environment.
- Let students choose how to demonstrate knowledge (groups, presentations, worksheets, posters, teaching others, etc.) Head-strong kids are often the ones the “traditional school model” doesn’t work well for. They’re often creative, inventive, and problem-solving kids who like to make their own rules and have their own thoughts about what is right and wrong. After all, they try to find their way around our rules all the time. Why not let them have a little choice every now and then?!
- Be specific with rules and expectations! Try to write expectations such as, “Keep hands and feet to yourself” rather than the overly general “Be Respectful.”
- Be consistent in your rules and expectations. Nothing more irritating to a headstrong kid than not being able to predict how an adult is going to react to a situation! Try to discipline consistently, calmly, and predictably.
- Pick your battles. No one likes a nit-picker. Imagine if your boss picked out every single thing you did wrong every day!
- Stop Talking! Be brief and to the point when needing to correct or redirect behavior. Long, drawn out explanations only make the embarrassment of being disciplined last forever and generally lead to resentment, not respect!
- Give students ways to “save face.” Discipline in private! Your attitude toward students will be mirrored by other students in your class! I hate seeing kids ostracized in 2nd grade because every adult in the building treats them like a criminal.
- Use humor. It’s a lot harder for kids to stay mad if you make a heavy situation light by using humor. Just make sure you’re not laughing at the child. For example, instead of, “How many times have I told you to stop running,” try “Hey bud! The floors are wet and I don’t want to have to pick up squished pieces of you off the floor. It’d be messy!”
- Apologize if you need to. Not only does this teach children that everyone (even adults) makes mistakes, but it shows them that you have respect for their dignity as a person as well.
- Be on their team. So with everything you do, think about you and I working together against the world. It’s amazing how much a mind shift can change your own feelings about and actions toward a difficult student!
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