20 Things You Can Say to Help an Angry Child

20 Things to Say to Help an Angry Child

So what do you say to an angry child? Does it matter if the child is your client, student, or your own offspring? Do you find yourself reacting differently depending on who is in emotional distress? It really shouldn’t matter, but all too often it does. I speak from experience on this one! Every once in a while, it feels like working with 1,500 other people’s kids isĀ easier than managing my own children…why is it any different? After all, I just said it shouldn’t matter…It all has to do with emotional investment. When we are overly invested emotionally, we take …

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20+ Counseling Themes in Star Wars – The Force Awakens

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Star Wars – The Force Awakens is full of counseling themes that can be utilized when helping children and teens (even adults!). Why use movies to address emotional and behavioral issues? Movies are made to connect with the audience on a personal and emotional level…at least the good ones have been. The feelings and challenges faced by the characters allow us to work through our own issues in a non-threatening environment. The general safety of the theater or our living room and the brief duration (yes, even 3-hour blockbusters) gives us a finite opportunity to experience the emotions vicariously through …

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18 Coping Skills: Strategies for Children and Teens

18 easy coping skills for kids and teens

Coping skills have been a pretty popular topic for discussion over on The Helpful Counselor Facebook Page. So many great ideas were shared that I thought it would be a good to write a coping skills blog post to have them in one place. šŸ™‚ Here are some of the great coping skill strategies (in no particular order): #1 Homemade Stress Balls (w/Playdough): During my counselor training, I was told that you should never ask your students to do something that you have never tried yourself. This is very sound advice as it allows you to work out kinks and …

Make Your Anger Walk the Plank: An Anger Management Game & Free Behavior Chart

Many of the students on my caseload have a difficult time managing their anger and making positive choices. One of my FAVORITE parts of being an elementary counselor is that I get to use fun play therapy activities to help teach new skills! Several of my kindergartners and 1st graders LOVE pirates…hmmm…sounds like a great way to increase engagement and buy-in to me! Integrating students interests into guidance lessons not only increases engagement, but it is also a great way to show that you are thoughtful about their wants/needs. You can check out Make Your Anger Walk the Plank by …

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11 Strategies to Use with Strong-Willed Children

11 Tips for working with strong-willed children

I’m super excited to have Colleen, from the One Stop Counseling Shop, stopping by The Helpful Counselor to shareĀ strategies to use when working with a strong-willed (or defiant) child. Welcome! Tell us a bit about yourself: My name is Colleen and I’m a school social worker in a small rural district in Illinois. My caseload consists of general education and special education students who need help with social skills, conflict resolution skills, problem-solving skills, and general help getting through the day. This year, I work with grades 2-6, but have worked with all grades K-12 in past years! I’m passionate …

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75 Reasons Behind Your Child’s Anger

75 Causes of Anger in Children

“I don’t know how you do it.” <- A phrase I often hear after responding to a call to help an angry child who is throwing desks across the room or displaying some other type of aggressive behavior. The answer is simple: It’s not personal. As long as care is taken to not aggravate their emotional response (i.e. confrontation, condescending attitude, sarcasm, etc.), I know that students are not mad at me. I am only seeing their reaction to something else they are experiencing. So what’s causing them to be angry?   While some misbehavior may be due to negative …